Ladies, Would U Be Mad At Me, Then Give Me A 2nd Chance?

Read what I have to say, and based upon that I'd appreciate if u could give me more opinions, u know?

I met this real firme hyna in High school, junior year.. (Sorry for the slang, firme means real, basically cool, and hyna means girl) Well, at the time I was involved with a lot of negativity. Like I had just got out of jail and I was fresh from it, so I stood on my toes. I had my tats out in the open, and I just regarded life like **** it. I had good homies though, but what I needed at the time was a hyna to come along. She did.

I'm not going to put her name out there like that but. anyways.

Everytime I'd see her, I'd forget about my pains and struggles. She was my escape from the crazy life. She had a man, but they ended up breaking up, and I moved in. We would flirt a little in the beginning, than like crazy. I used to go to school drunk and with war scars on me from fights from my drunken night, and she would take care of me. She would laugh with me and show me compassion that I didnt get from a female. I always messed around with girls, I had fun and I never wanted a lady. I thought I did a few times here and there, but with her I was for sure

So anyways I went to school drunk one day, and she was giving me all kinds of attention, and I didnt give it back. Things ended up with me going to jail. It was my 2nd offense, I knew I was getting out, but damn it I wanted to so bad so I could just hold her and let her know Im going to be there for her and I want to be with her. It didnt work out.

Well when I got out a homie from the same class I had her in was telling me that when I was locked up she was asking about me, how am I doing, how long I'll be in there. I texted her and we started talking, come to find out she has a boyfriend whom she loves. I ****** up and told her I still liked her. I hope she understood I had 7 months to think about a lot of things when I was in jail, and she was on my mind quite a few times. More than that, but you get the drift.

Anyways, that pushed her away. Than I texted her again and she said everything was koo and I asked her how college was, she said it was fine. Than after that she stopped texting me. And I texted her recently, but I dont expect her to text back right away. I dont expect her to text back at all really.

O, and I saw her a week ago, she was mobbing it on her bike. I was fixing my friends tire, and I saw the girl. At the time I didnt know it was her, but I did think "Damn that hynas sexy Im gonna spit game" (LOL) and it ended up being her. She looked at me, smiled, stood up on her bike and started peddling a little faster.

I was like ****. lol.

Sorry for the long *** story, but I really enjoyed the time I had with this girl. I dont want her to be the girl that got away. I've had plenty of chances to start relationships and it never works out. But with her, I ****** it up completely, but I recognize that. I'm wishing that her and her man break up. Or she gives me a chance and accepts me into her life as a friend again, so I can show her that I believe her and I should try it out. I dont mean to sound scandalous, but I'd do my best to take her from her man. I think their year anniversary is coming up soon.

Ladies, help me out please. Let me know what you think about this. Thanks!

(Sorry for the long *** story haha, had to get it off my chest.)

when i said i knew i was getting out, i meant i wasnt *

As I should say, you are a better man now and thanks to that hyna! lol.
Say everything about your feelings to her and this time, if you can have her. Pls.change for the better... This is your chance to show to the world that you can be a great man... God bless you.

let her go , just let her go.

no second chance

im sensitive but i wont

Just go for it i would say i mean if she saw what you just wrote and actuall read it. She might just give you that 2nd chance . I mean every one makes mistakes and does things that they regret all the time, but you got to know when to step up and change those negative things or ways!


It seem like you really like her, If your being truthful go for it if not just let it go!



Good Luck!

If you are wishing a break-up of her and her boyfriend, you are selfish and therefore don't really wish her happiness at all, but only happiness for yourself. that is not love. I suspect you still have some growing up to do. Be thankful for her patience and kindness with you, let her move on, and do the same for yourself. Perhaps if you stay clean, sober and out of jail, your relationships will largely improve.
God speed!

Sorry man, but i think youve missed your chance. Your selfish acts in your life got you into a lot of ****. It also made you break her heart. Shes moved on now and she happy, shes got a good life going for herself! If you truly cared about her, youd let be where she is now.

So when was she mad? It sounds as if she wasn't all that interested to begin with.

Anyway, I cannot tell you the outcome of their relationship because I do not know them. But I can tell you to get your **** together. Quit getting in trouble, get a job, and sign up for college. You can get state and federal grants and loans (just about anyone can). A grant does not have to be paid back but a loan does 6 months after you graduate.

Concentrate on getting your life together--it sounds like she is. That may just open her eyes and show her that you are worth it. Even if it doesn't, you will probably meet a decent girl on the way.


EDIT: Congratulations on attempting to get your life together. Now stick with it! Some people can talk the talk but can they actually do it. Also I know this seems disloyal or whatever but you might need to change who you hang out with. It is a hard transition to make but necessary if you want to live as a functioning adult. If your friends are the same friends you got into trouble with then you really need new ones. Trust me I've been there. Not in jail or whatever but I had some bad news friends when I was growing up and when I got pregnant with my first child I changed my life and now it is sad to see but at least I am not there with them. They are druggies, junkies, dealers, strippers, alcoholics, drunks, worthless, jobless losers with no ambition at life.

trust me you deserve better for yourself.

Honestly, I wouldn't want to get w/ you again. You seem to like getting in trouble and then having your 'hyna' take care of you (at school). Give me a break man, how many times do you have to get locked up to figure out how to keep out of trouble? You said it when you said "I ****** it up completely"
A girl wants a guy to be there and be reliable. Sorry.

<3 just wanted to let you know I feel for you. I've been on the other end.

ps i was going try and give you some insight into what it was like for me being on the other end in a situation like that but it started bringing back to many hurtful memories. sorry. although now that I think about it, that there probably gives you some insight.

woowww cute story doe lol..hmm first thing watt comes around goes around, so don't play games if she doesn't like you any more don't force her. Just at like you want her as a friend and don't Say you like her at all until she forgives you and trust you once again. Win her hearth and don't play games any more.

You sound like an intelligent guy who messed up for a bit but now have your act together (I hope). It does sound like she is the one that got away. I think you need to get scandalous, and find out how well she is getting along with this guy!! Just because they're together for a year, doesn't mean he's the right one for her. But you also need to figure out why your past relationships never work out. Was it because you didn't want to be fully committed, or something else? Once you know and can prove that you can be a great boyfriend, you can get out there and either get her back, or find another great girl. Don't worry if she does get away, they'll be others!!

Well it seems lkike even with your crazy life you always had love for this girl and maybe if you just try a little harder to get her back just make her realix=ze how much she meant in your life then she'll come to her senses come back to you Good luck in the future and just remember if it don't come back it was never meant to be

If you really like her then you will not intervene on her current relaionship, you need to let go of the past, if it is meant to be in the future then it will be.

First, why you can write so long and my account can't. They set a limitation on mine. For your thing. Go found out from her friend what kind of guy she like, then ask yourself can you/ will you willing change for her. If you want to be the man that she love more, than you have to act better than her boyfriend. More gentlemen, more caring, more sensitive, more giving, more ... . We girl compare! If you are not better than my boyfriend why you want me jump to you and dump him?? At last .... if she now love a good guy, a guy won't do anything illegal, are you willing to change for her?? After found out what she like, but you not willing to make the big change, that mean you didn't love her to the level that you believe you are.
Hope you found it helpful.

Talk to her, reminisce, try and bring things back up between you two. I mean, if she's in love with her boyfriend then that would be horrible of you to try and split them up, but if you flirt with her and she constantly flirts back, that may be a good sign. Just don't make any big moves like kissing her or asking her on a date.

I don't wanna bust your bubble but, if you really do care about her you'll let her go.. Look at her next time and ask your self if you really want to take away her happiness right now and risk her NEVER speaking to you? Now just look at this from a different perspective... think of all the good things that she has helped you through and all the things your feelings for her have taught you... If your doing so many wonderful things for yourself, its probly time to start fresh. Try again but wait for the next girl... there will be plenty... this time treat her right. When you meet the right one you'll know...good luck n stay outta trouble ;)